What to do when he pulls away
Start with observable facts. Regulate your own response, avoid escalating through repeated guessing, communicate clearly, and decide what level of consistency you need from the relationship.
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When distance appears, write down what has actually changed: frequency of contact, plans, affection, conflict, stressors and follow-through. This prevents anxiety from turning one ambiguous moment into a complete story.
A grounded response
Give reasonable space without disappearing into guesswork. If the pattern matters to you, name the change calmly and ask for clarity. Then evaluate the response—not just the explanation.
When more support makes sense
If the situation involves fear, coercion, abuse, threats, addiction, severe distress or a mental-health crisis, general relationship content is not enough. Consider appropriate professional or emergency support for your location.